One of the most common objections I hear when inviting people to a Groove experience is “Oh I can't dance and I don't want people staring at me thinking about how ridiculous I look” or words to that effect. First off, EVERYBODY can dance. If you don't believe me, just watch a toddler move to music. It's an innate ability that we are born with which gets conditioned out of us as we age. Secondly, I share the #1 Groove Truth which is:


No One Cares What You Look Like on the Dancefloor!


In all my years of dancing, I have found this to be absolutely true. More often than not, people are just laughing and enjoying themselves and not giving one flying fig about what anyone else is doing. Furthermore, if there is someone who is being critical, that has NOTHING to do with YOU. They are more worried about what they look like and project that fear onto someone else. It's about them, not you.


While this is a Groove Truth, this truth applies to all of life as well. Let me explain.


In today's modern world, we are bombarded with images and messages that emphasize physical appearance and societal standards of beauty. From social media platforms to glossy magazines, the pressure to conform to an idealized image is pervasive. However, it's time to challenge this notion and realize that no one truly cares what you look like. Instead, embracing authenticity and focusing on personal qualities and character is the path to true fulfillment and genuine connections.


The Illusion of Perfection


Society's obsession with appearance has created an illusion of perfection that is unattainable for most people. The constant comparison to unrealistic beauty standards often leads to self-doubt, low self-esteem, and even body dysmorphia. However, it's essential to recognize that these standards are arbitrary constructs created by media and advertising industries.


True Beauty Lies Within


Beyond physical appearance, true beauty lies within an individual's character, values, and actions. Kindness, empathy, intelligence, and creativity are just a few examples of qualities that truly matter. These are the attributes that shape relationships, leave lasting impressions, and make a genuine impact on the world.


Authenticity and Self-Acceptance


When we shift our focus from external validation to internal acceptance, a remarkable transformation occurs. Embracing authenticity means being true to oneself and accepting both our strengths and imperfections. It's about recognizing that our unique qualities and experiences are what make us interesting and relatable to others. When we let go of the need for approval solely based on appearance, we free ourselves from the chains of societal expectations.


Building Genuine Connections


In a world that often prioritizes superficial interactions, genuine connections are rare and precious. When we stop obsessing over physical appearance, we allow ourselves to truly see and appreciate others for who they are. By shifting our attention to listening, understanding, and connecting on a deeper level, we foster meaningful relationships based on shared values and interests. These connections are far more fulfilling and enduring than those built solely on external appearances.


Reclaiming Self-Worth


No one has the right to define your worth based on how you move on the dancefloor or in any other capacity. By rejecting the notion that our value is tied to our physical appearance, we empower ourselves to reclaim our self-worth. When we give ourselves permission to move our bodies creatively and unapologetically, we give permission for others to do the same and the Groove Dancefloor is the opportunity to practice and embody this Truth! Our true worth lies in our accomplishments, our relationships, our growth, and the positive impact we have on the lives of others.


Challenging the Status Quo


It's time to challenge the status quo and redefine societal beauty standards. Embrace diversity in all its forms—diversity of body types, skin colors, gender identities, and more. Celebrate uniqueness and appreciate the rich tapestry of humanity. By championing individuality, we create a world that values character and substance over superficiality.


In a society that often places undue importance on physical appearance, it's crucial to recognize that no one genuinely cares what you look like. Embrace your authentic self, focus on inner qualities, and build genuine connections based on shared values. Reject the pressure to conform to societal beauty standards and reclaim your self-worth. One of the ways you can re-claim your uniqueness and creativity is on the Groove Dancefloor. Remember, true beauty lies within, and it is through our character, actions, and relationships that we leave a lasting impact on the world.


Call to Action


My mentor's request is to allow yourself to be seen in whatever way works for you. If it's the Dancefloor, then I invite you to find a Groove class in your area and go for it! If you are local to me, then you can join me the following days and times:


Mondays at 5:30pm at the South Hanover Township Building in Herhsey.


Tuesdays at 11am at PA Dancesport Ballroom in Hummelstown.


Of course, there is also the Monthly Dance Experience via the Pleasure & Possibilities Goddess Membership and if that intrigues you, you may learn more about it at This experience is on Zoom and is a lovely baby step towards dancing with others.


There are many ways to put yourself out there, stretching that comfort zone and allowing yourself to be seen. If dance doesn't speak to you, you could try yoga, tai chi, hip-hop. The important point is to get your body moving and not give a hoot what other people may think since more often than not, they don't think anything at all.


As always, I would love to hear what this holds for you so feel free to reach out to me and let me know.


Until Next Time...