- Published: 03 October 2017 03 October 2017
This is the final installment in our 4 part discussion of Procrastination. We’ve covered Fear of Success, Fear of Change and Lack of Clarity. We will now discuss the cause that can be the biggest wall you will come up against:
FEAR of FAILURE
"I’m not quite ready yet."
How many times have you thought or said those words or something to that effect? How much time have you spent getting everything “just right” so that you would finally be ready? I so get this. I, too, can tend to fall into this shadow aspect of my Highly Sensitive nature. It's known as Perfectionism and Analysis Paralysis.
“I can't do this until I have ____ figured out!” The desire to have all the “I's dotted and T's crossed” can stall you indefinitely. There is a point when preparation becomes procrastination. You are working under some misconception that you must be perfect. The truth is that no one is perfect. You are good enough right where you are. And the highest level of anything (a product, your job, you as a person etc.) is only achieved with a certain level of feedback. That's all that failure really is. It's feedback. It's valuable information if you choose to see it as such.
You can also find yourself getting stuck in Analysis Paralysis. “Just let me research this one last point, then I'll be ready” except there always seems to be another aspect to research and you find yourself caught up in the cycle of researching – again, with the idea that if you have it all figured out, you won't fail. There comes a time when you need to stop analyzing and just do it!
It is the doing that provides the feedback you need. Remember, when you learn something valuable, there is no such thing as “failure”! In living the best version of your life, there is preparation, and then you need to get feedback by getting out there and actually doing the work.
Call to Action
My mentor's request is to notice if you dealing with this Fear of Failure through Perfectionism or Analysis Paralysis. If you are, I challenge you to let go and just go for it. You are ready. When you do, assess the feedback you are receiving. Here is an exercise to assess feedback.
Is this path bringing me closer to my vision? If not, what have I learned by taking this path?
When you can see the value in every experience, there is no such thing as failure. You just make course corrections along the way. And when you know, truly know, that you cannot fail, that within all experiences is an opportunity for growth; procrastination cannot stand in your way!
Don’t let procrastination stop you! I challenge you to be the extraordinary person that you came here to be! Allow your magnificence to shine!
Guiding women to move through Perfectionism and Analysis Paralysis part of the work that I do. I would be honored to support you if it makes sense for you to receive support. Feel free to email me to explore the possibility. As always, I would love to hear what the above exercise held for you so feel free to reach out to me or post on our Facebook Page.