- Published: 12 September 2017 12 September 2017
In the last post, I mentioned the 4 main causes of procrastination:
FEAR OF SUCCESS
FEAR OF CHANGE
LACK OF CLARITY
FEAR OF FAILURE
I covered the Fear of Success in the last article. Today I would like to bring attention to....
FEAR of CHANGE
Ah, CHANGE....it can be a scary word. It's simple utterance can send shivers down one's spine. Eyes widen, palms get sweaty, chests can tighten and anxiety swells within. You resist change and yet change is the one thing you can always count on! Change is an inevitable part of life. So, let's take a deeper look at this “thing” that can scare the crap out of you!
Miriam-Webster.com defines “Change” as:
To make a shift
To become different
To pass from one phase to another
To undergo transformation, transition, or substitution
When you look at these definitions, it's no wonder fear comes to the forefront! You are being asked to let go of something, to be different, to behave differently, to alter your pereption of reality from what you've known – even if that perception is not to your liking.
When my husband passed away, I went from being part of a couple to a single parent. No matter how much I resisted, the bottom line was that I was a single mother. I could not go back and change what happened. I either had to adapt and grow or wither away. I chose to adapt and grow because deep down I knew I had to. I was still here and I wanted to live a happy life so I had to find a way to do just that.
Change is an essential part of life and you change all the time. Take an honest look at yourself. Are you the same person you were as a teenager? Of course you’re not. I’m not the same woman I was 15 years ago and I wouldn’t want to be. I have grown so much and change is a catalyst for personal growth and development. You were not designed to be stagnant. As Abraham (as channeled by Esther Hicks) says, you are an expansion seeking being. You are born with the need for more...more life, more joy, more love – you get the idea. Once you understand and accept that change is inevitable and essential to your growth, you can view it for the exciting adventure it is and keep procrastination away.
Call to Action
My mentor's request to you is to take pen to paper and journal your responses to the following questions. Ask yourself:
Who do I need to become to move forward with ease and grace?
What quality (qualities) am I being asked to cultivate?
What are the gifts that I am being asked to see?
What do I need from others to support me through this transition?
How will I choose to nurture myself through this change?
Change is natural but it is not always easy. Self-love and self-care is paramount to seeing yourself through transformation. Reaching out for support is a show of strength because you understand you are not meant to go through change alone. Call on a good friend. Seek wise counsel. Find a local women's circle. Hire a mentor.
Change can be an exciting adventure if you make the decision (aka choice) that it is! It's an opportunity to re-define, re-create, choose again, and to explore and discover something new – to learn a new dance. Are you ready?
As always, I would love to hear about your journey through change so feel free to reach out to me or post on our Facebook Page.