So how do you learn to live with your loss?
Moving through grief is a process that is unique to each individual. There is no timetable and no right or wrong way of grieving. However, being a widow myself, I know there is what we call "active grief" and unless we learn how to navigate the ups and downs of "active grief", we can become stuck...unable to move forward with our lives. It is through my own grief journey that I discovered a four step process that helped me to navigate the roller coaster of grief. Using this process, I gained the ability to live with my loss. Thus, the Grieve with EASETM program was born.
What exactly does it mean to Grieve with EASETM?
Grieve with EASETM is my proprietary system that gives you the tools and mindset to learn to live with your loss. Here are the steps:
E - Experience and express your emotions...all of your emotions, including those that might be considered "uncomfortable".
A - Accept the situation and acknowledge and appreciate the gifts. Yes, there are gifts to any situation if you're willing to look for them.
S - Spirit Connection and Self-Care - recognizing that we are all spiritual beings first and foremost and as spiritual beings, we are never really separate from one another. Your spouse is with you and will always be with you and you can learn how to cultivate that relationship not only with your spouse but your own "higher self", your guides, other loved ones in spirit, etc. Also, through this process, you learn how to access your own intuition and begin to trust yourself again. You also learn the importance of Self-Care, being gentle with yourself, taking time for YOU because you cannot be any good to others unless you take care of YOU first. Too often, we put others before our own needs and learning how to put yourself first is an important part of the healing process.
E - Engage in life again by learning the concepts of conscious creation which I lovingly call Live to DANCETM.
These are the steps I've created to help other young widows/widowers begin the transformation of their lives. While grief is an on-going process that you never "get over", this program gives you the tools to navigate the rough waters of grief and teaches you how to live with your loss. Once you Grieve with EASETM, then you learn to Live to DANCETM.
What is Live to DANCETM?
Live to DANCETM is my proprietary system for consciously creating a new life for yourself that is filled with passion and purpose. Since we are all spiritual beings, we are part of Source/God/Universe/All That Is and can tap into that power that creates worlds. During this unique time of awakening, our ability to manifest our reality is one of the universal truths that we are meant to discover/remember. It is said that out of tragedy, some of the greatest transformations take place. Live to DANCETM can help you manifest the life of your dreams. Here are the steps:
D - Desire, Dream then Decide. The Desire is born within you. The Dream is your desire fleshed out into your vision. You, then, must make the Decision to go for your dream.
A - Activate, Appreciate and Align. You activate your desire by building your vision utilizing all 5 of your senses. You align with your desire by raising your vibration through appreciation. Appreciate all you have now and all that is coming to you.
N - Navigate your emotions and utilize the power of Now. Experience your desire in the Now. That means visualizing what you want as though you already have it. Your emotions are what lets you know whether you are in alignment with what you desire. If you feel good, you are in alignment. If you feel resistance, you are out of alignment with what you desire.
C - Choose to feel good and Clear the Cobwebs. As you navigate your emotions, limiting beliefs can surface that will need to be cleared/shifted/released. While we may not be able to choose certain circumstances in our lives, we always have the choice in how we feel about those circumstances. In choosing to feel good, you are always staying in alignment with what you desire.
E - Excited Expectancy. Know that what you desire is coming to you. Get excited about it, expect it. Identify and take guided and inspired action towards your desire.
Learning how to Live to DANCETM helps you take control of your life at a time when control is the one thing you feel you don't possess. This program offers a sense of self empowerment and awareness that life truly is a blessing of wonderful, joyful experiences to be savored. What better way to honor our spouses in spirit
then to take this time of Tragedy and transform it into a time of Triumph!